Wednesday, 18 December 2013

TOO DISCIPLINED TO BE RICH


Discipline is simply the practice of teaching people to obey commands and rules, and personally; my childhood could be described as a synonym. Having a much disciplined father is typical of Nigerians; here they think that it would help in shaping the future of their kids, and one essential part of that training, is teaching them the value of money. And in so doing, they indirectly tell them that money is very hard to get, and could only be got with hard work and nothing else.
I have nothing against hard work; in fact I believe it is necessary for good success. But we should not underestimate working smart too, because it seems to get the job done even better than hard work. 
     Just like a coin, the other side of hard work is the idea imbibed in the kids that: money can only be obtained when you are a workaholic, and most importantly your hard earned money is only used to purchase items you are in need of, but never for enjoying yourself. Well, with all these unwritten laws in place you wonder why a person under favorable conditions of finance would still chose to have a life of penury.
     In conclusion, ill like to say that teaching children about money, especially at their tender age is good work and should be commended. But let them know the line between being discipline and being a miser. So they do not end up getting under paid, and they’ll think that’s how money should be made, just because of a messed up mentality given by their parents, and in the long term they end up too disciplined to rich.     

Sunday, 15 December 2013

SUNDAY READ: SEE GOOD IN OTHERS

“…..fix your thoughts on what is true and good and right. Think about things that are pure and lovely, and dwell on the fine and good things in others. Think about all you can praise god for and be glad about.”
Philippians 4:8 (TLB)
There are people who almost never see the good in others. They are known to always dwell on the shortcomings they perceive in others. Even when others make good remarks about someone they would most likely have something negative to add to it. For instance if someone is complimented on her dressing, a negative person will be like, “yea the dress is pretty but that girl is fat”. Frustrated people can’t see the good in others especially because they can’t see the good in themselves; and so, they often criticize and pick on others.
People who act like this must come to the realization that such negative attitude exhibited can only entrench them deeper in the mud of misery. However our theme verse counsels us to “see the good in others”. This is actually important because appreciating others is not about making them happy, rather it’s about building a strong positive character.
Seeing the good in other people is a challenging pursuit, but well worth the effort.Basic social skills like smiling and maintaining eye contact will help.But to truly succeed here you should start noticing the positive intentions underlying peoples’ actions and forgive them for these actions.The fastest way to do this is to take advantage of your reticular activating system and look for evidence that other people possess good qualities.When you start putting these ideas into practice, you will have a much more positive view of the people around you, and you will notice more of these positive attributes in yourself.
Undoubtedly, you will be far happier because of your efforts.



Saturday, 14 December 2013

ARGUEMENT

According to Friedrich Nietzsche, “he who cannot put his thought on ice should not enter into the heat of dispute”. Before I start I just want to state that some people are just not cut out for arguments.
While we are social beings and want close relationships, we are also hard wired for survival. Biologically speaking, when we feel threatened we often resort to one of three reflex-like actions in order to protect ourselves from further hurt; fight flight and freeze. Depending on the situation our brains try to determine the most likely outcome of a crisis and assesses if there is enough time to escape, sufficient strength to fight/win or if playing dead is the best strategy to survive.
These actions are not rationally chosen since the brain is forced to almost as a result of external stimuli to fire instantly. No wonder sometimes you throw a reply and almost immediately you realize how stupid you just sounded, so instead of backing down you just go on trying to cover your tracks, some people are honest or should I say humble enough to just accept and shut the hell up.
So now we know the psychological reasons for arguments, lets comedown to the level we relate best on. There is this one guy I know, boy o boy(smh) this guy is just an anti-xavier, like errm an agent from the deepest parts of hell, I mean if I should even say “hey look a green grass” he’ll be like “dude that grass is not green !”. Some people just relish arguments and worse still most of them still loose. And then there are those that always want to turn every argument into a fist fight, don’t blame them though its only human to resort to where your strength lies, so if you have less brains and more muscle, I completely understand.
Arguments especially among young people is good when done within the bounds of sanity and purpose.it is helpful to both the right and wrong person, it’s the simple reason schools organize debates. To help build confidence in both speech and character. But we all know that the real arguments do not happen in debates, it’s among friends but this needs proper approach and execution.
In relationships, arguments come up but when not handled properly can cause frictions and by “properly handled” it can also mean times you just weakly back out without fighting. So here is a list of simple rules that I follow when arguing;
1. Laugh at all the facts they present .
2. Look for one wrong grammar in their sentence and keep attacking them with it.
3. Attack their physical looks and appearance and call the person names.
4. Claim all their source of data is unreliable and fake my own.
 lol, don’t, what I do try this .
Here is the set of rules I would recommend
1.       Play fair, no name calling.
2.       Don’t change topics or digress.
3.       Don’t get emotional, control your anger and don’t get all “puppy faced” It makes me feel blah blah blah.
4.       Know when to stop.

Tuesday, 10 December 2013

SARCASM


One of my favorite yet is by Sheldon from the big bang theory soap; “oh no no I’m listening, it just takes me a while to process so much stupid all at once.”  I remember once asking my dad where to keep a live chicken he just bought, I was little then. He looked at me calmly and said “oh, you can put it on my head”  I was confused as hell. According to the urban dictionary, sarcasm is a tongue of which the user speaks of something completely the opposite of what the user means. It often has the best comedic value. Whether it is correct to label it evil or okay is totally your choice, all I’ll do is show the pros and cons.
If you don’t want to be seen as a pessimist, always negative, then you best ditch the sarcastic attitude. People who often use sarcasm are mostly perceived to be funny by people who are not the subject of the statement at that moment but generally thought to be cynics. But on the other hand it is very efficient in drawing attention to stupidity and officiousness, thereby making stupid and officious people and potential to be stupid or officious in the future to be more self-aware. More like making stupid people aware of their stupidity so as not to repeat it again and as a warning to those who may also fall victims to think again.,
Sarcasm is basically mean. The element of humor takes the edge off, but sarcasm is often used to veil truly hurtful criticism. But, you have to admit, it takes some real brain power to put together some sarcastic lines. And the more you do it the better you get at it. In essence, it makes you smarter with speech in a way, errm better still it makes you creative(with words), because sarcasm itself is only as strong as the person who uses it.
Sarcasm most times is a defense mechanism. Indicating a weakness of some sort. It’s also a means to judging others, but is it really necessary to belittle others just to make you feel better? Although you have to agree with me that some of the actions and statements people make do deserve a sarcastic answer. He saw me waiting to board the elevator and asks, “are you going up to your office?” “oh no, I’m waiting for my office to come down and get me.”
Apart from being one of the most hilarious forms of humor, sarcasm can also be used to let of pent up steam, with less barking and hurting, that’s when it is done less often. Sarcastic comments can hide criticisms far too aggressive to be spoken, but if you can’t bring yourself to say it plainly, it only makes you a coward.
If you have any thoughts concerning the issue, feel free to share in the comment box.


Friday, 6 December 2013

ZOELOGY


SERIES: THY KINGDOM COME SERIES
EPISODE: WHY DID HE COME
OK, first of…let me say most of the things you’ll be reading in this series will break and contradict many religious beliefs, viewers discretion is discouraged though..
Now Why did Jesus come to the earth? The popular answer is, He came so that we can go to Heaven, is this answer correct, hmmm….capital letter NO.
You’re like c’mon dude what are you saying, hey before you conclude, read on.
JOHN 10:10
The thief cometh not but to steal and to kill and to destroy. I AM COME THAT THEY MAY HAVE LIFE AND THEY MIGHT HAVE IT ABUNDANTLY.
From this popularly quoted verse why did he come? Need more proofs?
JOHN 3:16, let’s read it together I know you know it well
1, 2, 3, go…
For God so loved the World that He gave His only begotten Son, that WHOSOEVER BELIEVETH on him should not perish but HAVE EVERLASTING LIFE.
From this passage, why was He sent to earth?
To give life, in John 10:10, he said l came not to take from you, not to take you to but to give to you, John 3:16 said he was sent to give a kind of life…hope you know after the rapture and tribulation we are still coming back to the earth for a millennia reign…ops…you never knew that were John said those that overcome will be given a star each and made rulers here on earth, Man was created to have dominion on earth not Heaven, gosh…this will be for another day, let’s get back to what l was saying.

The life that He came to give is known as everlasting life or eternal life (ZOE). There are 4 types of life, 2 are common BIOS and ZOE, bios is physical but He came to give ZOE.
NOW READ THIS, IT TOOK ME A VERY LONG TIME TO COMPREHEND AND I’M YET TO FULLY COMPREHEND.
Eternal life IS NOT the life you will have when you get to Heaven, it is the life you get at the new birth experience…(got born again)…how do you know this?
1 John 5:11
And this is the record, that God HATH GIVEN US ETERNAL LIFE AND THIS LIFE IS IN HIS SON.
Note he hath given us no he will give us…jump to verse 13
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These things have I written unto you that believeth on the name of the son of God; that ye may know that YE HAVE ETERNAL LIFE.
If you jump to verse 20, it shows us how an understanding of this activates that life, this were the kinds of things that people like late Idahosa and E. W. Kenyon, etc knew that made their physical bodies bullet resistant, an understanding that he died to activate eternal life in me.
So for those that think he died to make us escape to Heaven if it were so, the day you got born again you would have died… so we have a lot of folks playing with sin and despise him saying when l’m near death l will just repent, oww…you think He is a puppet.
I won’t go into how to walk in the reality of eternal life in this series, l only want to establish basic bible truths in this series.
So today we treated why did he come?
Next time, we’ll consider why did He die?
You might find these things difficult to swallow, these are hidden truths been revealed by the Spirit of God from the Word of God, at least believe the Word quoted.
So after why did he die, we’ll do a real series on THE ETERNAL STRATEGY OF GOD.

PLEASE SHARE THESE POSTS AS THEY COME, THEY WILL BE RELIGION KILLLING BUT LIFE GIVING IN JESUS NAME…God bless  

Monday, 2 December 2013

RELIGION


Religion teaches us how bad we are & tells us to fix our flesh, instead of who we truly are in Christ!

Religion tells us this is the way to follow to get to God only for you to walk that path and end in the ditch, but Jesus says I'm the way.

We have tried so hard to please God but He says all I require is faith, that is why I hate religion and love Christ.
so next time when you talk to peeps or get on that pulpit, do not waste time speaking on your own experience but rather speak on His finished work on the Cross, cos it's not about you, it's about HIM.
People are tired of hearing what they are doing wrong! They know that already! They want to know "HOW DO I CHANGE?" 

You cannot change yourself! Only knowing your TRUE IDENTITY in Christ can change you!!!